Jessica Valenti (@jessica): "Where are they hiding the 47 year old tradwives??"
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Where are they hiding the 47 year old tradwives??
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I can confirm from the Midwest that they are divorced and had to go back to school to support their kids. Or they are still deep in it and already grandmothers.
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Not just a Midwest thing. It’s a poor white lady thing and here in the middle of rural poverty you see it everywhere. The young women fantasize about it but think they can pull a rich guy (they can’t) or that they’ll never be tossed aside for a younger woman. Out here I’m shocked at the sameness between the women who espouse it and the women who have multiple children by multiple men, none of whom pay child support.
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This is what happens: read Shannon Vavich’s account of how her husband of 30 years (and 7 kids) discarded her in Gutter Catholic Daily Digest. She’s an incredibly intelligent and resourceful woman who is ultimately going to be fine, but she’s also pretty clear about what being a tradwife cost her. I was a SAHM for 20 years, I don’t regret the investment of time in my child, but I and my daughter were also eventually abused by my husband, and we escaped about 2 years ago (I’m in my late 50s). Fortunately I married late,…
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I was 10 when I watched the first wives club and thought....oh...depending on a man for money is a bad idea. and then i looked at my parents and went, yup. confirmed.
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YES!! I think I was around the same age when I watched First Wives Club with my mom and aunt! I swear it should be required viewing for girls.
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I guess when you are young and in love, it sounds so romantic. Young minds are easily manipulated. I totally agree with you, they realize they are missing out on life and end up divorced because they’ve had enough.
My mom stayed home when we kids were little. By 47 she had a job. She and my dad had always planned for it to be a temporary arrangement. Now she's 64, retired, and still married.
Sometimes she wishes she'd worked more and been able to bank more social security, but she's also happy for the time she had with us at home.
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I stayed home for seven years and don’t regret it — it was wonderful time invested in my children. But it absolutely harmed me financially. We should have a system that allows women to concentrate on motherhood for a season and then return to their careers without financial harm.
Excellent point and well-said! ❤️ The conservative movement is taking advantage of young women who are only 19 or 20 because they often lack the life experience to recognize patriarchal traps 🪤 and are at an age where it’s easier to idealize relationships with undeserving men. They haven’t “kissed enough frogs” yet, so to speak, to have experience to draw on of what a lousy relationship vs. a healthy relationship looks like. This makes them vulnerable to giving up rights to freedom they’ve barely experienced
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Yup. Targeting young girls and women to use and abuse them is what conservatives do.
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There aren’t many 47 yr old influencers period so not sure we’d see them regardless of how their lives turned out. I take your point but would argue they do exist and that they don’t give a shit about performing on the internet as the 20 something’s do. And they are all performing to some degree if you see them on the internet. They’re gaining followers who either actually agree with them or they’re rage bating and gaining attention that way. Which likely monetizes their position and further encourages them to dig in deeper.
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I gave up my military career thinking my (then) husband ‘s military career was more important. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE! He lied and cheated while I took care of the home and our kids. I filed for divorce and had to claw my way back into the workplace. I tell my girls to never tie themselves to a man’s finances ever again.
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Because we saw our mothers, aunts, grandmother's, or older sisters go through the aftermath of this stuff. A lot of us had to deal with this crap from employers, partners and more throughout our lives. What's sad is that they will get to a point where the light bulb comes on and then they're stuck. Amazing how nobody learns from the past, to many people it's just abstract history.
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The truth is not mean, it is necessary.
19 and 20 year olds have not developed enough to know better.
As women get older, they get wiser, and learn to say no more to abuse of any kind.
I did.
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Some do, but too many don't. I'm glad you were able to get out, and I hope you're thriving.
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LOL. Truth.
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Exactly. More than likely they are divorced and in poverty, the man refuses to pay child support and he hid all of his finances and quit his job to avoid paying child support.
And then he remarries a woman who’s about 20 to 30 years younger than him and gets her pregnant immediately. That’s what happens.
And that 50-year-old former child wife is struggling to make ends meet, never finished our educational work to support her now ex-husband, struggling to feed her children, struggling to find chi…
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They’re Amish or Mormon and not allowed to have electronic access
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Most Mormon women have degrees, some just choose to stay home after they get them. Many have to work because their husbands do not make enough money to support them and all of their kids. All of them that I know have access to the same things I do. The polygamous cult Mormons are another story.
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And some end up dead and buried in a golf course.
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They have the freedom to make whatever choices they want, because of all the other women in the past who have fought for our rights.
It sickens me!
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I know I became an engineer in the early 80”s and I was lucky to be accepted and given a chance in a man’s area There were a few comments but generally feel good about the opportunities and my confidence to contribute to my family I have seen many at home women get divorced around the time the kids go to middle school ( when kids don’t want to be around their parents a lot)
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Some of the older ones are cosplaying tradwife while raking in public speaking bucks.
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My dad refused to let my mom work, and after she had a stroke he had power of attorney, refused to let her have rehab, and had all her teeth pulled without telling her it was going to happen, so she wouldn’t bite the caregiver. This was 2017.
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This sounds freakily like ilsa she wolf of the desert. “I don’t like the scrape of teeth”. Ugh.
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Their uteruses have fallen out & they have succumbed to the exhaustion of having to bake bread daily & the trauma of overt daily misogynistic abuse.
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The little old Amish lady who sells me eggs is my age, and looks about 50yrs older
I have one kid
She has 12
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Funny that they think this is so new and they thought of all of this, so it must be great. But marriage works best with honesty (does anyone really believe all the influencers say or show?), and if the two parties agree on their relative roles, value, and duties as they move through life. And that everything (earnings, savings, investments, delayed compensation, assets, debts, children, pets, property, appreciation, hidden accounts, pensions, etc.) cover them both equally no matter what happens…
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The biggest reason you’re not seeing the older trad wives is because it’s propaganda aimed at men and girls. It’s an active campaign by Christian Nationalists to get women out of education and the workforce, and back home birthing white, Christian babies. There are plenty of 47+ trad wives out there. Go to any Mormon church or Evangelical church on a Sunday and you will see them. They are the ones who are actively teaching the younger generations that this is God’s will for them, and supporting…
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Let’s talk about those liberal women infested with the mind virus shall we? Blahahaha you ALL KNOW IM RIGHT!
“The evils women have suffered in such arrangements are better exposed by those who’ve experienced them, but I have eyes and understand their argument.”
Stop Marginalizing Older Women
I’m not confused about their espousal of this way of life. I grew up in a household that was coded tradwife lite. What I am confused about is the values misalignment of them saying it’s the only way.
This was supposed to be the party of rugged individualism, live your own life. Their preaching a singular monoculture war is the tell that something is very, very wrong.
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It’s an unrealistic fantasy for all, other than the few years where the kids are the youngest and need the most support, having a wife who will stay at home won’t necessarily make the guy happy or improve his well being.
My wife spent 14 years at home, in part because she preferred that in part because we could without too much financial stress and now she’s working again she’s happier and by proxy so am I.
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Oh, well, there’s always waitressing! Everybody loves that job, and unless tv is lying to me, you can tell people to kiss your grits!
Q: you do know the movie’s punchline, right?
Fell for it, now I’m divorced and destitute at 37.
Ladies, NEVER tie yourself to a man like that. It’s not the life you think it is
I would think that most of these young women would know women that followed that life path. I get the impression that maybe they are trying to appeal to women that are more conservative than their parents and reacting against the executive style feminist mother that didn't have time for them. That's the whole TPUSA schtick, “rebel against your left wing commie parents!”
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Oh yeah…. We absolutely know why .. ( I’m 57 years old )
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Probably in the kitchen, the office, the school pickup line, the church pew, the grocery store, or helping with grandchildren—living ordinary lives that do not photograph well for an algorithm.
Most women devoted to faith, family, marriage, and home are not online performing a “tradwife” identity. They are simply doing the work.
Perhaps the problem is not that 47-year-old traditional women are hidden.
Perhaps no one is looking for them unless they can be turned into a stereotype. 🙏
100% agree! Most women are more independent these days and want their own money and most of all the freedom to do whatever the hell they want!
They are aiming their message at the young women because they are the fertile ones. That’s the Project 2025 plan.
Silly, they are called Marthas - that is, until they are sent to the mines.
You sound insane.just saying 🤷🏻♂️
So very true, why aren’t their lives being put on display?
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pre frontal cortex isn’t fully developed until 26. i’m 38 and separated. there are no 40 year old trad wives. they are divorced, working, and on their way to being grandmothers if not already.
girl YES, so incredibly well said
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Trad wives is the colonization of the matriarchal societies. Life is far more balanced when a council of women direct the energies of men.
It would be best if they didn’t get into that situation at all, but I guess living is learning.
she got a divorce or is now under the thumb of some abuser. or he abandoned her.
You mean the trad grandma? Lol They’re hiding in plain sight all over the South.
Yes!! Keep on questioning them!! Love the way your mind works!!
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I agree💯
because it has an expiration date
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To paraphrase the book of Ecclesiastes, there is a time to be mean
The “trad wives” should be proof of concept for AI taking jobs: of videographers, makeup artists, lighting, post production, wardrobe, etc.
If the actresses are at least a little authentic and not totally fake, they have the 2-FTE job of running their household, plus at least another FTE doing the jobs of 7 people in video production (with the AI assist), plus the FTE of acting in the videos.
Now, if I told you having the equivalent of 4 full time jobs were the key to happiness, you’d want some of what I was smoking.
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Let’s see all to the 45 yr old tradwives who are being abused or divorced and see how well they think that worked out for them.
Divorced and exploring the idea of being bi.
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Where can we see these stories
I agree, they would not be that eager to sign up! And my first thought is: are they hiding, or are they just not in our algorithm? And outside of the interwebs, they are definitely not in my circle of friends, family, or even acquaintances. Hmmm….I just talked myself into thinking that they may be hiding….
I think for many of the older women it's the sunk cost fallacy - even though bitter experience means they no longer believe what they once preached, they've preached the tradwife gospel so long they just can't back down now.
This! This! This! Speak up trad wives, write the books.
Absolute truth.
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Nailed it.
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Bingo.
OMG imagine the tradwife with perimenopause stabbing her husband in the eye with a steak knife😂
They’re all married to the fictional vandals that ruined the reflecting pool 🤣
I love this point!
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LOL. Precisely.
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