Comments - "I like you already..." - by Meghan Fitzgerald
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May 12
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Hi! I just discovered your substack and am reading through a couple posts. I really like this idea! I wonder how the reverse of "I like you already" could also help. "You like me already...." It's kind of the same and not. Assuming "I like you already" is kind of intertwined with "you like me already," because if we like them, why wouldn't they like us?! But for some folks I think it could be just as powerful to remind oneself before entering into an interaction, that you are ok, and you are worthy of being liked and seen by this other person as well. Maybe what I'm thinking is closer to your daughter's "we're on the same team..." because that implies the support goes in both directions.
Meghan Fitzgerald
May 12
Author
What a lovely enhancement to the idea. Yes to this. This is true for all of us, but especially for adolescents. Thank you!
Apr 2
Liked by Meghan Fitzgerald
I really liked these ideas and believe it can make a change in presentation. I am onboard with a10d!
Meghan Fitzgerald
Apr 3
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Thank you, dear Een!
Mar 27
Liked by Meghan Fitzgerald
Thank you for sharing! This is a great example of the self-fulfilling prophecy in Social Psychology. When we enter a social situation with pre-judgement one way or another, our own actions often lead the interaction to what we expected in the first place. It goes either way, expecting something good or something not good. So setting intentions and even “pushing the reset button” as we call it in my family, can turn things around.
Apr 7
I have a family member who is an achiever. He's a solid citizen and isn't in the game for status but I do often get the sense that he measures his worth according to his accomplishments. A friend introduced me to the enneagram and the type #3 has this dynamic, and the "remedy" is how I interpret this post. When you love him already, then there is no need for the achievement as validation. Grateful you are doing this project!