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I teach men how to handle desire, boundaries, and conflict in a way that builds trust with women.

By Amanda James

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What Everyone Misses About Trauma and Self-Discovery

The Healing Power of Somatic Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Feb 24, 2025•Amanda James

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I Felt So Much, I Started To Feel Nothing

8 Sensory Tools to Use When You Feel Numb
Mar 24, 2025•Amanda James

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The Hidden Cost of Being Hard to Know

There is a man I worked with, maybe two years ago now, who described his relationship to me in almost exactly these words: everything is fine.
May 31•Amanda James

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When His Vulnerability Gets Weaponized

He told her about his father during their third month dating.
May 24•Amanda James

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What Men's Work Gets Wrong

There is a thing happening to men right now that nobody is naming cleanly.
May 17•Amanda James

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what 540 hours of psychotherapy taught me

Mar 14, 2025•Amanda James

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I Felt So Much, I Started To Feel Nothing

Mar 24, 2025•Amanda James

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The Hidden Cost of Rejecting Your Power

May 20, 2025•Amanda James

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Is Trauma Really Stored in the Body? Here’s What That Actually Means

Apr 28, 2025•Amanda James

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The Somatic Space

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Why Big Emotions Aren’t the Problem

Part 2: Breaking down body-led practices through real-life stories. No experience required. Zero jargon.
Feb 1•Amanda James

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I Will Teach to Know What You Want, What You Really Really Want

Part 1: Breaking down body-led practices through real-life stories. No experience required. Zero jargon.
Jan 28•Amanda James

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